I would have to say one of the hardest things that I am dealing with now one year into being a stay at home mom is missing the competitiveness of work.
Brady recently received a promotion and I was soooooo happy and excited for him because he is so good at what he does and deserves everything he got. After all the emotions of being happy for him went down, I started feeling jealous and wished it was me getting a promotion. I miss having that high of competitiveness in an office, whether it is on a project, position status or a promotion... being honest, I sometimes miss being in the "working" mix.
I also miss being apart of a team at work and all of my co-workers... I am not going to lie, it is hard to drive by my old office sometimes. I know all of this will be waiting for me in 5 years when Brock starts school full-time, but I am really realizing who I am and what is important to me as a person and what I will look for in a job when I go back. I miss the drive that I once had when I first was working and before I had Landon and someday I want to feel that again.
For now, I am extremely happy to be at home to raise my boys and get to experience their childhood with them, as I feel it is meant to be between a mother and child. This is what I wanted more then anything in the world, just be home with my babies... but, there will always be that competitiveness lingering in the back of my head, waiting to come back out...
Friday, January 8, 2010
Thursday, January 7, 2010
Whatever Happened to being a Guest??
All I want to know is, whatever happened to being a guest? I am talking about being invited over to someone's house, whether for birthday party or get together, and actually FEEL like a guest. I am starting to feel like the old fashion being host/hostess has gone done the drain.
When people come over to our house, I rarely ask anyone to bring any food and if they ask, I will say chips or something that is not going to take time to make or bake as I want them to come over and enjoy themselves. I NEVER ask anyone to do the dishes, I NEVER ask anyone to clean up their spot at the table and I try to be as attentive as possible so people never have to feel uncomfortable making their way through my kitchen. I am always exhausted at the end of a get together and that is the way it is suppose to be.
What I have been noticing of late, is that it is MUCH more work for us to go to someone else's house for dinner, then it is just to stay at home and me make a 3 course meal! First, I always have to bring a dish (which I love to bake & cook and have no problem sharing, BUT it is a lot of work making it before hand), I have to bring all of Brock's stuff (including chair, food, bib, sippy, etc.)... plus, everyone now days expects you to get into the kitchen afterwards and start filling up their dishwasher and wiping down their table.
I am seriously not talking about one person in particular, it is EVERYONE... and I have to say how incredibly uncomfortable it is, no matter how close you are to someone, to be in someones kitchen cleaning up! On top of that, I have to clean up my own kids, the highchair, the floor where Brock threw all his food, which to me is a given and I am going to do it no matter what. So, I have enough to do just taking care of my own kids after dinner and then to feel the pressure to run into the kitchen and start cleaning... man, I am just ready to go home at that point because I am doing more work eating at your house, then it would have been at my own! It really should not be that way.
So, I guess what I am saying is, next time one has a get together, don't just try to come up with the easiest and cheapest way to get by, but make it a treat for guests... make them feel like guests. I just want to have a fun time out with my friends and family and not deal with all the uncomfortableness!!
I mean seriously, do you think June Cleaver would have made her guests get in the kitchen after dinner?? NO WAY!
When people come over to our house, I rarely ask anyone to bring any food and if they ask, I will say chips or something that is not going to take time to make or bake as I want them to come over and enjoy themselves. I NEVER ask anyone to do the dishes, I NEVER ask anyone to clean up their spot at the table and I try to be as attentive as possible so people never have to feel uncomfortable making their way through my kitchen. I am always exhausted at the end of a get together and that is the way it is suppose to be.
What I have been noticing of late, is that it is MUCH more work for us to go to someone else's house for dinner, then it is just to stay at home and me make a 3 course meal! First, I always have to bring a dish (which I love to bake & cook and have no problem sharing, BUT it is a lot of work making it before hand), I have to bring all of Brock's stuff (including chair, food, bib, sippy, etc.)... plus, everyone now days expects you to get into the kitchen afterwards and start filling up their dishwasher and wiping down their table.
I am seriously not talking about one person in particular, it is EVERYONE... and I have to say how incredibly uncomfortable it is, no matter how close you are to someone, to be in someones kitchen cleaning up! On top of that, I have to clean up my own kids, the highchair, the floor where Brock threw all his food, which to me is a given and I am going to do it no matter what. So, I have enough to do just taking care of my own kids after dinner and then to feel the pressure to run into the kitchen and start cleaning... man, I am just ready to go home at that point because I am doing more work eating at your house, then it would have been at my own! It really should not be that way.
So, I guess what I am saying is, next time one has a get together, don't just try to come up with the easiest and cheapest way to get by, but make it a treat for guests... make them feel like guests. I just want to have a fun time out with my friends and family and not deal with all the uncomfortableness!!
I mean seriously, do you think June Cleaver would have made her guests get in the kitchen after dinner?? NO WAY!
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
No more Babies :-(
Well, we finished gathering all of Brock's baby clothes that he does not fit into anymore and brought it all to Goodwill... that means that there will not be anymore Witt babies from our house :-( I have such mixed emotions about it.
On one hand, I am happy with my beautiful boys and love the wonderful balance of having two kids. Also, Brady comes from a large family (14 kids) and he has always said he only wants 2 kids so he can give them everything they need from birth until they finish college, including love, support, attention and financial help. I come from a family of 4, with just me and my sister... I always wondered what it would have been to just have one more kid in our family and sometimes wish my parents would have had more.
On the other hand, I am sad that I will never be able to carry another baby in my belly again and hold a newborn in my arms... and of course, adding another beautiful child to our family!! I really am not worried or feel the need to have a girl... I am one and I know how they are!! hehehehe
Brady is right though, we need to move on now and start to live our life with our family as it is... complete :-)
On one hand, I am happy with my beautiful boys and love the wonderful balance of having two kids. Also, Brady comes from a large family (14 kids) and he has always said he only wants 2 kids so he can give them everything they need from birth until they finish college, including love, support, attention and financial help. I come from a family of 4, with just me and my sister... I always wondered what it would have been to just have one more kid in our family and sometimes wish my parents would have had more.
On the other hand, I am sad that I will never be able to carry another baby in my belly again and hold a newborn in my arms... and of course, adding another beautiful child to our family!! I really am not worried or feel the need to have a girl... I am one and I know how they are!! hehehehe
Brady is right though, we need to move on now and start to live our life with our family as it is... complete :-)
Monday, January 4, 2010
I was so Shocked!!
I did not start a "diet" today, but I am changing up my food a little so I can get rid of the last lingering pounds. So, of course I had to weight myself today so I knew what my start weight was and I was not looking forward to it... I have even ignored the scale all together for the past 4 months because I did not want to see the truth! To my amazement, I was actually down 17 POUNDS from the last time I weighed myself 4 months ago and I didn't even know it!!! I did start working out 3 days a week in September and we always eat pretty healthy because of Brady's weight lifter's diet, but I honestly did not know that I had lost almost 20 pounds :-)
The best part of this whole thing is that I have less to get rid of then I thought!! Now I only have 13 pounds left to reach my pre-having kids weight!!!!!!! My goal is to try to get down that, plus more by end of March-April before we go on vacation :-)
The best part of this whole thing is that I have less to get rid of then I thought!! Now I only have 13 pounds left to reach my pre-having kids weight!!!!!!! My goal is to try to get down that, plus more by end of March-April before we go on vacation :-)
Friday, January 1, 2010
Christmas is the time for... an ATHEIST?
I am pretty upset about something I just read on Facebook... I was looking at one of my friend's pictures from Christmas. They had a beautiful tree up, tons of gifts, her daughter was in a beautiful red dress and their was a wonderful fest of food! Wow, looks like a typical Christmas at most people's houses... so, I went on to read her profile and under religion, it said, ATHEIST! What? You don't believe in God? Then why in the heck are you celebrating Christ's birthday?
No one has a right to celebrate Christmas if they do not believe in Christ... do not use Christmas as a fun day to exchange gifts and eat a bunch of food! How dare she or anyone else use a sacred day in the Christian Religion for their day of fun!
I am not even going to tackle my feelings on Atheists, because I do not have that kind of time right now and that is not the point of this post.... but I will confront anyone who takes the Lord's name in vein and or mocks his existence... those who do not believe will not be saved and if you feel that he is not real, don't waste your time celebrating the birth of our savior!!
No one has a right to celebrate Christmas if they do not believe in Christ... do not use Christmas as a fun day to exchange gifts and eat a bunch of food! How dare she or anyone else use a sacred day in the Christian Religion for their day of fun!
I am not even going to tackle my feelings on Atheists, because I do not have that kind of time right now and that is not the point of this post.... but I will confront anyone who takes the Lord's name in vein and or mocks his existence... those who do not believe will not be saved and if you feel that he is not real, don't waste your time celebrating the birth of our savior!!
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